Welcome to the Compass for Friendship & Love blog. We are two undergraduate students at the University of Virginia who have undertaken to present an alternative to the current crisis of the male- female dynamic. We see random hookups and quasi-romantic friendships as a signal of the deterioration of the broader world of male-female relations, particularly on college campuses.
The situation is bleak. Dating is nearly extinct, and random hook-ups are rampant while those who reject the hook-up culture are left to navigate the labyrinth of relationships without a compass. Some may say, “So what?” And many do. But we consider the situation to be problematic. There are no more guidelines for the interaction of the sexes. There are no more boundaries and there are no more rules. It’s as if we’re playing a game of soccer without any sidelines—and often without goals either. The world of male-female interaction, especially on college campuses, is plagued by fouls, injury and emotional exhaustion. The injured list is growing and both girls and guys—but especially girls—are filling up the roster.
Men and women are searching for love and companionship, but too often do not have a compass to find it. For far too many, our compass is broken. Exposed to the magnetism of our culture, the compass no longer points north to an understanding and respect of the differences between men and women.
We hope you will join us on this journey as we seek to regain our bearings.